Researchers have reported five strategies that can help to improve the value of a cherished relationship.
This research has been published online in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.
“Relationships are like cars in that you have to do certain things to keep them running, especially when your goal is to strengthen and preserve your bond with your partner,” Brian Ogolsky, a U of I professor of human and community development, said in a statement.
Researchers in this study worked on 35 research studies including 12,273 individual reports to check for the factors that are important in enhancing good relationships. They reported that the openness, positivity, assurances, shared tasks and a shared social network are the strategies that can be used to increase the beauty of a relationship.
“It’s also important to assure your partner that you’re in the relationship for the long haul, to divide household chores and responsibilities equally, and to make an effort to include your partner’s friends and family in some of your activities,” Ogolsky said.
Researchers have also found that usually the person who follows one strategy also follow the other strategy.
“Persons who use any of these maintenance strategies will not only be more satisfied with and committed to their relationship, they are also likely to continue to love and, yes, even like each other throughout its duration,” he said.
Study also suggested that these strategies work strongly when both the partners are completely involved and are aware of each other’s efforts.
On the other hand, it must be considered that sometimes thoughts can’t translate our actions. He explained, “Say you’ve arrived home from work and your intention all day has been to buy some flowers for your partner and surprise her with dinner. Then you get wrapped up in a business phone call and your good intentions fall by the wayside. You may feel as if you’ve put considerable effort into your relationship, but your partner didn’t see it so it does you no good.”
Although busy schedule is disturbing our lives but small deeds could also make a lot of difference.
“Even a small attempt at maintenance, such as asking how your partner’s day was, sending a humorous text to make him laugh, or picking up the phone and calling your mother- or father-in-law, can have a positive impact on your relationship and make you happier,” he added.
Ogolsky, B., & Bowers, J. (2012). A meta-analytic review of relationship maintenance and its correlates Journal of Social and Personal Relationships DOI: 10.1177/0265407512463338